"Break Up" or "Make Up" ? What that's supposed to mean?

Wanna - "Break Up or Make Up" ? 

- What do you really want to do? The Word "Up" doesn't mean that the answer is going to fall down from the Sky! The answer is inside of you. Yeah, "Literally" inside those pants where the balls should be in or those lady gaga panties where your vagina may be Party rocking.

- Do you still love him or her?  - Do you still love it?  - Do you still love the Situation you are into? 

- How does the Situation Really Works for you? Is it  Really Right to Wake Up with "Every Single Morning" or Is it Really Wrong to Prevent you from Sleeping at night? 

I am not only talking about a Relationship with Someone. It could be a Relationship with yourself, with your Own style of living. What about a Relationship with your Work? A Relationship with your friends? A Relationship with your Coworkers? A Relationship with the Gym? A Relationship with your Own Body? A Relationship with your own Mind? The Real Relationship starts and ends with YOU. 

So you are the only ONE that gets to decide what you want in your Life. Don't get stuck with any situation that you don't want in it. This includes people, things, actions, places and "Whatever" makes you - Sick & Repulsive making you wanna Vomit and Throw Up! What are you waiting for? There's no more time to lose! You have Only Got One Life! Throw it A-W-A-Y! N-O-W! T-O-D-A-Y! For a Better TOMORROW and Forever and Always! 

LIFE is not a "Bed of Roses" So Wake Up and Smell the Coffee! You decide what you want to do. You are a Grown Up and that makes you to have the Magic Power to Change your Life So in The End You Could Say You Did the Best You Could For Your Own Good!  

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Can We Buy "Happiness" ?

Things used to be "easier" Before when we were just Kids discovering the World as astronauts or Rock-n Roll singers. You used to be Smiling with "NO Reasonable Reason" at ALL. Love every "little" thing about LIFE that seem "New" and "Special" just for being "Unknown" before and have just discovered it Today about it. 

But now "Everything" seems to be "Different". Could be that the World still is the same and we are the ones that has changed? 

- It seems like... We have forgotten what used to make us "Happy". We have being "bombarded" by marketing about buying "Happiness". Magazines, Radio, Television, Internet & Social media that tell us how "exactly" We should look, behave, act, think and what to have if we want to feel Really "Happy". 

So We started buying "expensive clothes" to Cover up our defects and "expensive clocks" like we could have more control of the time with them . Acting like "Hippies" Smoking Weed all day long to be "Cool" or "Yuppies" pretending to have ALL the answers to what Society demands for us to know. Starting Smoking at a "Pretty young age" to feel "mature" and "grown up" but really looking "Pretty Stupid" with cigarettes at the mouth. Texting like cyber robots to other galaxies and publishing every single act of every single day like We were freaking TV Stars of  a freaky TV Show Alive. Constantly Clubbing and Getting drunk and wasted every night. Having Wild Sex with random Strangers hit at the bar to have "One Night Stand" and a "Baby Stay Forever " later. "Condoms are more sell at the Pharmacies than Candies from the Candy Shops". There is no Party without those kind of "Balloons" Right now. So the party is full of fool Clowns now. 

Where is your Own Personality? It's inside your Closet or Out of it? Did you forget it at the Laundry? 

That is "exactly" What happens in the "Dating World". That person Who is Standing in front of you is the same person that was before you know him or her. But it seems like you don't recognized it anymore. The truth has always being in front of your eyes but your own perception about it was completely different. Maybe because you didn't really get it from the beginning and you started the journey too fast taking the wagon without making sure to know what your "exactly"  final destination was. You just wanted to feel "Young" and "Alive" and Just Love the adrenalin of not knowing Where you were going and Just following "the flow of people moving around" because you didn't want to stand there just "Looking" feeling like you get "Stuck" in no place at all. 

But the truth is "You have Got One Life for all your existence and One shot of doing "Whatever" you truly want to do, Go "Wherever" you truly want to go, Being "Whoever" you wanna be and Dating "Whenever" you feel is Right. So break your Fears, Chains and Walls and Fly! 

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"Friends with Benefits" Does It Really Benefit You?

"Friends with Benefits"  Where are the 'Benefits' at ALL? 

Is Like Playing "Hide" and "Seek". When There is "True Love" You Just Can't Hide it But When There is not, There is "Nothing" left to hide. So if We hide "Something" for Sure is "Not Love". 

- They call you "My Love" when no one else is looking and they call you "My Friend" when anyone asks about your existence role in their Life.   

-They kiss you when no one is around and they make their distance clear from you in public when their true friends and family are watching. 

- They will never tell you about the "Other girls" but they will get lost or missing for days and you know that they weren't in the "Hospital or Jail". If you are lucky that they didn't cancel you or saw you later after "getting laid", I meant "going out" with them. If they don't want to lie, they will just Skip the "Dirty Details" and Say they went out to make a girl "friend" a "Favor", but you can imagine "What kind of favor it was". If they talked about them they will called them as "My Friends". But the thing is... Do you Still Remember that...  Aren't you "Friends" too? 

- They text you saying that they "miss you" but the truth is that they are just "bored" at 3 a.m. when they get back from work and they don't reply you back when they get bored of you now and would say that they were "busy" working or had other things to do. This of course means "Anything Seems More Important than talking back to you". 

- "They will never commit to you as MUCH as you do". Asking for "Fidelity" or "Loyalty" is asking too much. In this Case Is like a Joke when you don't know whether you should Laugh or Cry.They will always look for the way to evade the situation or just change the subject. Let make this clear, Their Only Commitment to you "Starts and ends in the bed". The best thing or gift that they could ever give you is a really "Wild sex night" as diner because you will never see their face again for morning breakfast. 

- They will lie to you by making plans about the future that are just "delusions" about "Marriage" and "Kids" and "Taking the things Soon to the Next Level" because they feel ready to "Settle Down". But the truth is that seems like "Soon" is Never Coming and the Seasons are passing by and you're stuck in the Same Place you were Before with that "Wishful Thinking" Going to "Anywhere". 

- They will tell you that they had a dream with you last night and you will confess that you did too. You of course, will take it as a declaration of "True Love." He will meant that he had a "Wet dream" where you were "both naked in the bed". 

- They take you for granted. They will never See the "Real" you interesting enough to have a "formal relationship" because that takes "Time" and "Effort" and they want the Things "Easygoing" as a "Real" Hippie Smoking Weed did. In other words, "They Always want to get advantage of the Situation "Having Just the Benefits of a relationship without taking any of the responsibilities"  

- They will eventually tell you "Pretty Words" when they haven't heard from you for a while just to remember you that you are one of his personals "Cheerleaders" because he feels like he is the "Final Champion of the FIFA World Cup". And you of course will have crowned him as the "Prom King" but Where's your Crown? He hasn't invited you to the Prom, isn't he?

- They will try to justified themselves from not getting really involved into a "Serious Relationship" Saying that "They are Still too young" But the truth is that... "They Will Never Be Mature Enough Like Peter Pan did Because They Will Never Grow Up Even When Their Body Does..."  

After all The age is just a number but Maturity is a State of Mind... 

So NOW You Understand Why I have asked you, Where are the Real Benefits of this "Not Relationship" ?  I just don't get it. If you just wanna "Get Laid" and not have to Pay you Could Only have "One Night Stand" But you don't have to get involved in this kind of "Pretending" to be "Something" you are just not. Because who played with "Fire" at the end eventually gets burned. 

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First & Last Love. Do you Still Remember?

There is Always a First Time of 'Something'. What about your First fall? I am not talking about falling in the street or from your chair or bed. I am talking about a 'Strongest' fall. Yeah, Man or Ma'am. I am talking about the 'First time you fell in love with someone'. 

I am pretty sure that it wasn't the last time you've fell but you will always remember the first time, doesn't it? It doesn't matter if it was the 'Best' or 'Worst' time ever. I can bet that 'You still remember it'. 

Well If we were ages before we could probably say that the first time you fell was the last cause you got married with that same person. "But at this modern ages I think you'll probably fall a few or more times before getting engaged if you ever actually do it." 

How old were you? How old was she or he? How could you be sure it was really "L-O-V-E" what you felt before? Well that's a question we'll ask a thousand times in our minds when we start remembering those times...

I think you'll never know if it was real love until you know it for sure without thinking it twice. You'll never know if you never try.  

Sometimes people compare their "First Love" with their "Actual Love" I think that's a mistake. When you are sure what you felt and what you feel,  You just don't have to compare it. You just know. 

The First time you fell in love or at least you think you did will be 'Something' that will change your life for good or wrong, it all depends what you decide it to be. If you feel uncomfortable with the past, sometimes you will probably be unsure about trying again to be in a similar kind of emotional attach relationship in the present. But if you don't take the "Bright" side from the "Darkness" you will let you Blind to See the Stars of a Better future. Is never late to try again. 

- Failure is the only way to succeed. Pain is the only road to learn to appreciate the value of "Happiness" and Mistakes are the best lessons in the world. 

There are certain things in time you can't change. Those things are the ones that you have done in the Past. But the things you can change are the ones that still haven't occur. Do 'Something' NOW that you will thank yourself in the future. We are our own machine of time. 

Like my favorite phrase says:   Let your Past make you "BETTER" not "bitter" ! 

In Conclusion: Don't be afraid to fall again. Don't be afraid of trying anything. I am not only talking about the Romance Section but All the Others Important Sections in your Life. 

Don't let your fears stop you from living. 

Good Luck! :) 

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Why Most of the People Cheats. "Fidelity is a Myth Now." Seems like... Being unfaithful is the Current Fashion!

I think The Main Problem 'Here and There' Starts When We have got Our Own 'Judgement' to bring it to the Court. Do you declare yourself, "Guilty or innocent"? Think it twice, After all What do you actually considered as an infidelity?  

 A Very 'Compromising and Revealing Photograph' taken at 'New Year's Eve' hugging cheek to cheek almost kissing with a Coworker? Seems like you guys really know how to make it out before and after work.

A 'Flirty' or 'Dirty Nasty Slutty' Text or Talk? A constant exchange of Looks, Fluids and Smiles? Shaking hands while are you giving your Phone number? A naked or provocative image sent? A kiss? A touch? One night Stand? Having date or two relationships at the same time? All this things that are not supposed to be happening if you are still dating or seeing someone else. 

It is not who knows the truth but who shares it. The truth is relative for all of us with no exceptions for anybody. 

I am not saying that every couple needs to be unfaithful. I am just saying most of the couples does at least once. But the funny thing is "If he or she does it once and is not exposed that might happen again in a short future of hours or days."  

But What if We are still 'Nothing' now but We are Supposed to be meant to be 'Something' later... Cause We are Supposed to be feeling 'Everything'. Well in that case I am afraid to tell you but seems like your 'Everything' Sucks more than Your Own Soccer Socks! 

- Love isn't "Blind but Stupid". There's not a 'Permanent' Blindness but a 'Fleeting' Vision. 

All those "Love stories" you have heard seems to be not happening the exactly way they were told or maybe not happened at all. There are not 'Happy endings' how you have been told since you were a 'Kid'. There is Always 'Something' more behind those "Happily Ever After" Kiss Scenes. Fairy tales are legends because they are all fake after all. "Fidelity is a Myth Now." Seems like... Being unfaithful is the Current Fashion! The question is...

               Are you fashionable or faithful? 

People these and those other days Lies and Cheats ALL the Time. If you think this phrase doesn't make any kind of sense, you are definitely lying to others but most to yourself or still living on 'Disneyland' . Do you still believe in fairies? Which would probably make you not the 'Dumbest' Person but the 'Happiest' Person in this room full of liars and pretenders. "A City of Angels that in a blink of an eye turned to be a Hell of Strangers."

Or all have gone 'Crazy Mad' or all have been Always living that way at all. 

Cause in most of the cases of every 'damaged' relationship; There's Always One who lies and cheats and other who pretends he or she doesn't knows.   

When We are called to be 'Under the the spot of lights' on stage to be judged and declare our own "Version of the most recent events". There is Always a Variation between the Order of the ' Current Facts' . Breaking News: It is not the same "What you think that happened. What Witnesses Saw that happened. What the Defendants Say that happened and What actually really happened at all. 

That's when the justification defense starts being used. Blaming everyone but ourselves. There is always a reason for every act and as a consequence. Does it really matters who has the blame on it? I think a 'Couple failure' is for the both. Cause as long as I can remember a Couple is made by two. But seems like People doesn't remember how to count. 

- When you are hungry. You usually go directly to open your kitchen fridge, doesn't it? And you make a clear observation of what it is inside? What happens when you open the door and there is nothing more than an empty stomach and a clean fridge. There's nothing there for you anymore. You have forgotten to buy your groceries. But that doesn't change the fact that you have to eat now, doesn't it? Tired of eating the same kind of junk food or with no food at all. You finally decide to eat outside. 

That is a metaphorical example about what happens in most of the failed relationships infidelity cases. As people forget to do their own groceries they forget to figure it out their relationship conflicts too. They forget they'll be hungry not saving a piece of 'Something' for later. A piece of Comprehension, Faith, Support, Honesty, Quiet and Calm or LOVE. But Sometimes is the contrast what actually happens. 

- What if it is your birthday? And you just feel like staying home and doing nothing. You don't want a Cake or a Party. You rather stay at your couch watching TV Comedies or playing X-BOX all day. What if someone without even asking you comes unexpectedly to your home, bringing all the Birthday Cake, Balloons, Crowd and Complete Party. I thought it was your damn Birthday not his or hers. He or She gave you 'Everything' when you expected 'Nothing' at ALL. There is no honest gratitude exchange. For some kind of reason you don't feel really into it. You are not happy. You are just sitting at your comfort zone and feeling "O.K." And thinking how you should have close the damn door or pretend there was no one home... 

That is another option for what could have happened. When you give 'Everything' in a relationship to Someone who doesn't cares or didn't ask for it. Maybe he or she was complete satisfied being alone. It doesn't matter how much you try to change that situation if after a while there is probably no change maybe it is cause no one asked for it. 

- Do you wanna be Frida Kahlo forgiving infidelities of your own Diego Rivera because you consider a different kind of 'Loyalty' from cheating over and over again? 

So you decide if you take the Venom  of the death or the Cure of the truth. Stop blaming others. Start looking for solutions. If there is no solution there is no problem to resolve at all. Let it GO and MOVE ON!   

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First Date Turn to be Last One? : Learn" 13 THINGS You SHOULDN'T DO if you want to get a Second! " :)

Find The Reason Why You Have Been Rejected After Your First Date! 

Don't make that Date into a Wrong Day.

You don't have to be an expert dating to know that "It doesn't matter if it's a first Blind Date but definitely the First Impression is what it counts when you wanna start dating someone!" :) 

1. Appearance Counts~! . First of all. Where are you guys going? What you gonna wear? It doesn't have to be expensive clothes to have 'Good style'. Love doesn't come from the eyes but attraction does and Love definitely comes from being attracted to someone. You don't necessarily have to be a ' Prom Queen or King ' but you don't want to be the 'Clown' too. So don't use too much make up or too messy!

2. Don't be late~!  I don't care if you gonna wear your tennis shoes or your heels but being a boy or girl in that case doesn't make an excuse for running late! We all have the same time, there's no different clock for any gender so be on time! 

3. Democracy decisions~!  I think in most of the cases 'The girl' is who get the opportunity to choose everything but sometimes it is really a pleasure for us to see if the guy actually get the initiative to surprise her with really good choices to hang out. Maybe he could just give her some good options for her to choose what she prefer to eat or get to know her a little bit better and try to make a 'Good Choice' to impress her. It actually works! 

4. Eat a little, talk more~!  Sometimes we get so 'nervous' that we don't really even touch our plate, that's not the point. Just take 'Small' bites if you don't wanna look that 'Hungry'! But don't forget to talk to avoid that awkward 'Silence pauses' you are not dating a dead person at a funeral after all! ;)

5. Don't let her pay, don't let him think you want him to pay~! I know this may sound 'Cliche' but if he is a ' gentleman ' and really interested on you he will pay the check, is the first date after all. It is a golden rule, every smart guy with the right balls inside the pants would know it. But every single 'Lady' will know that she doesn't need to look too confident or abusive letting him pay everything, so to be respectful and be respected back we 'girls' should offer to help him pay the bill, so he is the one who has the answer to say if he is gonna pay all or not.

6. Don't talk about your 'Exes'~!  This may sound 'Stupid' but still always happens! If you are tasting a 'New food' do you really wanna remember and talk about the 'Last worst toxic evil food' you have eaten that made you wanna throw up?  - Of course not, exactly! That's my point! The past is in the past. Live your present! If you wanna talk about your 'Ex' why don't you guys go back together and you stop pretending you are over him or her? Let's be honest. If you still talk, you still care and if you still care, you still have feelings for her or him and you are not ready to date again! So don't do it or don't date again until you're really ready!

7. Don't exaggerate things~! I am serious about this. You are just starting to know this person in a 'Romantic way' so don't scare him or her talking about the 'future' yet. You don't even know if there's gonna be ever any future to talk about... Other way You could automatically turn your 'First' date to your 'Last' date. Don't say things like "When we start dating for real" . "When we get married!" "When we have kids!". If you do...There will probably be not Wedding discussion ever again. 

8. Don't make out~!  I may sound like your own mother or the priest at church. But What a hell, they were right after all. I am not talking about going to heaven or not. But going deeper than the second base isn't a brilliant idea if you wanna go into a 'serious relationship'. 'Free Samples' at the supermarket are not taken home for real. What comes easy, goes easy! This just applies if you are looking to date for real. But if you are just looking to have FUN! And just 'One Stand night' , Go a head! In this case I just recommend you to use a condom! 

9. Don't laugh at everything or don't talk at all~!  In case you are not dating 'Jim Carrey, Ben Stiller or Adam Sandler' I think you should have no reason to be laughing about 'Everything' he or she says to you. Even though it is actually funny you don't wanna look like an idiot or the 'Barbie tour guide' of Toy Story with a fake smile ALL the time. But at the same time you don't wanna look that serious like a serial killer or making the wrong impression that you don't have any good sense of humor. He or she doesn't want to date a mummy after all. If he or she doesn't find you funny enough or vice versa I think it is not gonna work out. It should be FUN but not FAKE! 

10. Don't start flirting around with other people~! This may sound 'dumb' but don't start looking everyone else in the room. Don't flirt with the waiter or waitress or cashier. I know you are still 'Single' but that doesn't give you the reason to be a Jerk, Bitch or  a Slut in front of your possible 'date'. After all, what kind of impression you wanna make? That you are "Someone to trust ALL or Someone to doubt ALL!" If you start with the wrong feet you will probably end up ' Alone' in the floor with no teeth!  

11. Get rid of the technology~! Control the technology, don't let it Control you and ruin your date! This means pay attention to whatever he or she is saying and listen! Let your hands on the table and not in your phone! Do you wanna date a 'Human Being' or a 'Machine'? You are on a 'Real' date not a 'Virtual' one after all. The world is not gonna fall apart if you stop sending WhatsApps, taking photographs at instagram, reading your Fb Wall, making retweets at the blue bird... 

12. Don't make FUN of anybody but YOU~! Don't make 'Bullying' about others at the table. It is consider rude to talk bad about others , specially when you are on a date. You didn't come this long to start criticizing everyone you know to try to impress her or him like you're the Hit of the Year. Even though you'll get a Grammy or an Oscar or anything else, that doesn't make you any special than Jesus is. 

13. Just be YOURSELF~!  Don't pretend to be 'Someone' that you are NOT. You are looking for your 'Real Good Match' so it's better to know from the start if you guys have the 'Click' flame chemistry or not. If everybody were honest from the start there would be less ' Broken hearts or Heart less ' in the streets. If you just wanna play, tell from the beginning, if you wanna date for real, tell it too. Don't lie about who you are, what you think, what you like or not. To get to know someone, we should open and show ourselves to them too. - If you never try you will never know!  

Well this were just a little piece of advice when you start seeing someone. Don't hurry up making any important decisions before knowing in which unknown land are you landing for!  Maybe she or he is a player and you want to have a'Stable relationship'. Or you are not looking to land into any kind of 'Serious Relationship Yet' and the other person is ready to settle down. Take it slow but for real from the beginning! You don't wanna waste any time after all! ;) 

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